Roman Catholic Rite of Marriage
Knowing that marriage and the family constitute one of the most precious of human values, the Church wishes to speak and offer her help to those who are already aware of the value of marriage and the family and seek to live it faithfully, to those who are uncertain and anxious and searching for the truth, and to those who are unjustly impeded from living freely their family lives. ~Pope John Paul II – On the Family
Hello, my name is Regina De Spain and I coordinate marriage preparation here at St. Thomas Aquinas.
St. Thomas Aquinas invites couples who are engaged or married to join us as we celebrate the beauty of married life. Below you will find listed some helpful information to get you started and provide you with a brief overview of the diocesan marriage preparation program. I am here at St. Thomas to assist you with your marriage preparation, convalidation, and wedding. Please contact me at (623) 935-2151 x 210 or at firstname.lastname@example.org to request an appointment.
We welcome the engaged to contact us as they begin preparations for their wedding day.
Contact: Regina De Spain in Marriage Preparation at (623) 935-2151 x 210 or at email@example.com
Click on this link to find out more about the Sacrament of Marriage, What is Marriage?
Why a 9 month preparation process?
To prepare couples adequately to live their call to holiness through the Sacrament of Marriage. The Catholic Church wants your marriage to succeed and has outlined a process to help you both grow in love, and a deeper understanding of one another through a better understanding of the Sacrament.
Where do we begin?
After you are engaged and before you set the wedding date: Contact Regina De Spain or call; 623.935.2151 x 210 or at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up an appointment for an interview.
What can we expect at the interview?
The interview will be an opportunity for us to get to know one another, collect basic information and go over the whole preparation process in greater detail.
Then what happens next?
You will both complete a FOCCUS Inventory. The FOCCUS Inventory is a marriage preparation inventory, which is a series of questions designed to assist dialogue with your fiancé regarding goals, habits, expectations and values. Your answers are scored, assessed. The inventory is an important starting place for couple discussion and a map of what issues need affirmation, time and attention, and/or problem solving. Once completed you are contacted by mentor couple to go over the results.
For all Catholics: Baptism Certificate issued within 9 months of the wedding date. Request the Church of Baptism to forward a baptism certificate “with notations”. We can help locate churches of Baptism if you do not know how to contact them.
If possible, Catholics are also requested to submit photocopies of their 1st Communion and Confirmation certificates.
For non-Catholics: If the non-Catholic is a baptized Christian, we will need a certificate or letter from the Church of Baptism verifying the date. If this is not possible, we will use another means to verify baptismal status. If the non-Catholic is not a baptized Christian, no documents are required.
You may also be given “Affidavits of Free Status” which are to be completed by people who have known you for all or most of your life (i.e., parents, siblings, aunts or uncles) and signed in the presence of a priest or Church employee.
Marriage Prep Courses
Life Skills Class- There are a variety of opportunities available to satisfy this requirement and I will be able to tell you about them in our meeting. These classes focus on many useful sessions from communication and conflict management to finances and family of origin. To search for or register for classes visit the Office of Marriage and Respect life website: www.ourcovenantoflovephx.org
The God’s Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage is an awesome class based on Scripture and Pope John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body.” It helps couples understand not only what the Church teaches about marriage and sexuality, but why she teaches it. It presents a beautiful vision of the meaning of marriage. To search for or register for classes visit the Office of Marriage and Respect life website: www.ourcovenantoflovephx.org
Natural Family Planning- To ensure you have the tools to plan your family effectively and in accord with God’s plan for marriage, you will have the opportunity to learn about Natural Family Planning by taking a full course in an approved NFP method. The diocese has classes scheduled in over 30 locations. To search for classes by city, parish or NFP method and to register for classes on-line, please visit the Office of NFP website: www.phxnfp.org
There are also on-line options available for some of these courses if that works better for your circumstances.
Why so many preparatory steps?
- The preparation policy is set by the Diocese of Phoenix.
- The emphasis is on facilitating the deepening of the relationship of the couple so that our people enter into marriage with a strong, loving, wise foundation.
- We also emphasize the couple’s relationship to God and through that hope to deepen their appreciation of God’s role in a successful and enduring marriage.
Marriage is the “most intimate of human friendships. Marriage calls for a mutual self-surrender so intimate and complete that the two spouses become “one” yet without losing their uniqueness as persons” ~Christopher West
Guidelines for Music
Planning a wedding is an exciting time, filled with many choices. One of the most important decisions you will make as you prepare the details of the wedding ceremony is the choice of music. Music has long played a vital role in Christian worship. Music sets the tone of the celebration and enhances the Church’s prayer. The music ministry of Saint Thomas Aquinas Catholic Church is committed to providing music for your wedding that is appropriate for worship and reflects your faith as a couple.
Click here to download our music selection document
|1||Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring||J.S. Bach|
|2||Prelude in C||J.S. Bach|
|3||Canon in D||Johann Pachelbel|
|5||Andante Tranquillo||Felix Mendelssohn|
|7||Andante Con Moto||F. Mendelssohn|
|8||Sheep May Safely Graze||J.S. Bach|
|10||To God the Holy Spirit||Dietrich Buxtehude|
|12||Sleepers Awake||J.S. Bach|
|14||Trumpet Voluntary||Jeremiah Clarke|
|16||Trumpet Tune||Henry Purcell|
|19||Ode to Joy||Ludwig van Beethoven|
|20||In Thee is Gladness||J.S. Bach|
|25||Ave Maria||Franz Schubert|
|26||Ave Maria||C. Gounod / J.S. Bach|
|27||God in the Planning||Trad. Irish Tune|
|28||God is Love||David Haas|
|29||When Love is Found||Trad. English Tune|
|30||Let’s Praise the Creator||Edward Kremser|
|31||Love Has Brought us Here Together||Rowland H. Prichard|
|32||Love One Another||James J. Chepponis|
|33||Gift of Finest Wheat||O. Westendorf/R. Kreutz|
|34||Pan de Vida||Bob Hurd / Pia Moriarty|
|35||Panis Angelicus||C. Franck|
|36||One Bread, One Body||John B. Foley, SJ|
|37||Ubi Caritas||B. Hurd|
|38||Taste and See||James E. Moore, Jr.|
|39||I Receive the Living God||Anonymous|
|40||Take and Eat||Michael Joncas|
|41||El Amor Nunca Pasará||Eleazar Cortés|
|42||Una Fiesta de Amor||Eleazar Cortés|
|43||Juntos Para Toda La Vida||Estela García-López|
|44||Te Seguiré||Estela García-López|
|45||Ven al Banquete||Bob Hurd|
|46||Pescador de Hombres(Tu has venido a la orilla)||Cesáreo Gabaráin|